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I’ve learned a lot about friendships in the last few years. I moved about four years ago. No one prepared me to lose many of those friends, some of them I still see their pictures on the internet or hear someone mention their name. I learned from this that if you love someone or if someone is your friend you need to keep in contact with them, you can live 600 miles away and still be really close to someone. Some of the people I know from my hometown are now more of a memory. We’re strangers that shared a past and then there are others that I have no stopped keeping contact with them and we are still very close. Love is not measured by distance it’s measured by how much you are willing to pursue that friendship no matter how hard it is. This also does not mean that I have stopped loving those I lost contact with, I still think about them all the time but, I no longer try to be there for them because they no longer want me there. Another thing I learned about friendships is there are fake friends, and it might even be your “best friend.” If someone is putting  you constantly down and only cares about your life, they are not your friend. People who talk behind your back or plain out make fun of you in front of other people, they are not your friend. If someone says they like you but to other people say they don’t, they are not your friend. If they do not care about how you really are they are not your friend. If they left you in the darkest part of your life and all you needed was them and they didn’t care or want to be there, they are not your friend. A friend is someone who loves you, accepts you, cares about you, and stays in your life when you are not a loveable person. I’ve come across many fake friends especially since I entered highschool. I didn’t realize til after that most of them were not laughing with me, but at me. I no longer socialize with those people and I don’t go to social events where I know that I am going to be shunned or ignored by everyone there. Another thing I realized in the last week about friends is, no matter how much you care about someone it can not make them care about you. One of my friends recently had a big falling out in her life, she was getting back on track in the last few months and she texted me and told me something she promised me she wouldn’t do. It went against everything I stood for, and I had to take a stand on it. One of the last things she said to me was “You don’t care.” But I did, even though she had hurt me so much in the past I still care about her well being and her future. I’ve come to realize that even though I cared about her life and her she didn’t and she didn’t care about mine either. So if you have friends who have left you, hurt you, made fun of you, and completely left you alone at a hard time, pack your bags and leave them. You do not deserve to be treated as lower than them. Anyone who makes you feel bad about the person you are is not your friend. Look for people who will build you up and not tear you down. Keep in mind that no matter how much you love someone sometimes you have to forget what you want or who you want and remember what you deserve. Because you deserve more than to be treated like someone’s emotional punching bag. -Libby

So keep your head high keep your chin up and most importantly keep smiling because lifes a beautiful thing and theres so much to smile about -Marilyn Monroe